The 3 Ways Wanting Goes Wrong—And How to Get It Right

Wanting isn’t the problem. In fact, it’s the beginning of everything meaningful in your life. But somewhere along the way, we learned to suppress, shame, or override our desires—until we forget what we even want in the first place.

In this episode, I break down three common ways wanting goes wrong, share a few weird/funny stories from my own life (including slapping hams like bongo drums), and guide you back to wanting in a way that feels exciting, intuitive, and safe.

In this solo episode, Justin dives into:

  • Why most people don’t actually know what they want

  • How your wants may not even be your own (yep, societal programming is sneaky)

  • The difference between wanting and having

  • And how reclaiming the right to want is the start of actually getting what you deeply desire

And yes—there’s a story involving slapping hams like bongo drums. It makes sense. Trust us.

🔑 Key Takeaways & Topics Covered:

  • Why most people can’t answer the question: “What do you want?”

  • The 3 Wanting Traps:

  • Not knowing what you want

  • Wanting what others want for you

  • Confusing wanting with having

  • How childhood shame and social pressure kill your connection to desire

  • Why simply wanting doesn’t mean you have to have it

  • How reclaiming your wants is the first step toward actually enjoying life

  • Practical ways to rediscover your wants

  • Justin's fabulous 5-minute energy practice to reconnect with your true wants: LEAP

What’s one thing you actually want but haven’t dared say out loud? Let me know in the comments.

✨ Links & Resources:

🔗 Join the waitlist for the LEAP self-guided energy practice:

👉 https://justinwenck.com/leap

🔗 Connect with Justin or book a session:

👉 https://justinwenck.com

📩 Know what you want? Or don’t? Share it with Justin.

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Watch this episode on YouTube! The 3 Ways Wanting Goes Wrong—And How to Get It Right

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Justin Wenck, Ph.D. is a best-selling author, coach, teacher, speaker, podcaster, and tech professional, and has his doctorate in Electrical Engineering, which means he’s an expert in complex systems and their programming. He is dedicated to using this expertise to optimize the most complex system we know: The Human Being.

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